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How To Ward Off a Crush & Be Crushed On

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It might have happened to you. That moment you become a little fearful, yet somewhat flattered, of someone who is obsessing over you. He or she may show up uninvited or constantly text/call/e-mail you even though you provide little to no response. You don’t have the heart to tell him or her to leave you alone, or maybe you do but he or she mistook your straight-forwardness for playing hard-to-get.

Keep on reading for ways to ward off a hardcore crush and learn how to be crushed on! (more…)

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So You Want to Be a New Yorker? Read This!

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You want be a Carrie Bradshaw, Serena van der Woodsen, Blair Waldorf or whatever overly dramatic character from Glee that’s living the glamorous life in the city. Take it from a relatively new New Yorker – it’s not like that. Granted my life is full of dramatic, fantastic, unexplainable events worthy of a Lifetime movie (lookout for the premiere in 30 years) but it's still mostly UN-glamorous. (more…)

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NYC Pride Parade: Straight People Rock Rainbows Too

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Gay PrideHappy Pride! The pride parade is something I always look forward to every year I’m in New York City, especially this year with the death of DOMA. A couple was carrying a poster that read “Together for 20 years, married for 8, finally legal.” People lined the streets from Midtown on 5th Avenue all the way down to Greenwich, watching from behind the barricades or from apartment windows and balconies. (more…)

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Advice on How To Get a Job – From Someone Who Has a Job

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The unspoken secret in life is that no one knows what they’re doing. The people we consider “smart” are just better at guessing what’s to come. The president, Heidi Klum, your mom – they’re all winging it. If you want to get what you want, more specifically a job, you just have to convince everyone else that you know what you’re doing. The world is a superficial place where we assume things based on what we’ve experienced or stereotypes we’ve learned. Your first impression is EVERYTHING. Everything.

I understand wanting to be a wild, free individual and not wanting to cater to society and give in to social norms – but having pink cotton candy hair is not the most important thing. Think about who has had pink hair – P!nk, Nicki Minaj, Katy Perry, circus performers. If you’re applying for positions similar to theirs, then go ahead and dye your hair, otherwise I’m not sure if I’d trust a Nicki Minaj look-alike doing my taxes. (more…)

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How to Be a Good Liar: The Truth About Lying

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I lie, you lie, we all lie. If you’re saying to yourself as you read this that you don’t lie – then you just lied.

Get over yourself.

It’s not okay to lie as Pinocchio taught us all as small children. But the truth is your nose won’t grow and YOU WILL GET EATEN ALIVE in the real world if you don’t learn to do it correctly. So what I’m saying is – it is okay, even necessary, to lie in certain situations. It’ll get where you want to go, you can protect people’s feelings (including your own), and it makes your stories more interesting. Just don’t be a jerk and lie in critical or immoral situations. I’m not your mom – you know the situations I’m talking about. (more…)

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10 Things to Try to Look Like You’re Not Trying

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Effortless – my favorite word, style and attitude. The secret to happiness and all good things in life is, to simply put it, “give no f**ks.”  I mean think about the ideal woman, a Victoria’s Secret model, and the ideal man, James Bond. Granted the Victoria’s Secret models weigh about as much as the average 12 year old and have legs that go on for months, and Bond looks phenomenal in a suit and always has a perfectly chiseled jaw line. It’s the element of not caring or trying to be cool that makes them both SO cool.

The VS model with her seemingly not styled, messy, tousled bedhead and soft smokey eyes walking around in her lingerie in front of an audience with a flirty smile as if it were any other day and not the average person’s nightmare. Then there’s Bond getting into to fist fights on top of trains, dangling from the sides of buildings and slipping out of every predicament and into the next without breaking a sweat and keeping a monotone, unamused voice. The ultimate Mr. Cool.

Regardless if you fall into the mainstream standards or follow the beat of your own drummer, as long as you carry yourself as if you’re proud and no one is watching, you can get away with anything.

Here are 10 things to try to look like you’re NOT trying: (more…)

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Summer Prints and How to Stop Traffic

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Summer has officially arrived in New York City. Everyone is breaking out their shorts, breezy fabrics and flirty dresses. This summer is the summer of prints and brights. Loud, fun, obnoxious, novelty prints and bold, saturated colors. Prints of all kinds including florals, animal, skulls, paisley, preppy, you name it. I myself love bold abstract and tribal statement prints. It’s a great way to stand out in NYC.

New Yorkers are all in an unspoken competition to see who can stand out the most and make a statement. Life here is about celebrating individuality and having others notice and acknowledge it. But in a place where the competition and ambition are high, no one will notice you if you don’t give them a reason to.  Incorporating a colorful print into your outfit is a simple eye catching way to spark interest.  Check out the bright summer prints on these street stylers in Little Italy. (more…)

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Yo Ho Ho and a Box Full of Gold

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In another life I was a pirate. I love gold, treasures, and trinkets and scope out lucky pennies on a daily basis to add to my collection of “booty.” I like to rebel against society and if I knew how to go about obtaining and operating a yacht piled high with gold and living on the high seas, I would. My jewelry is stowed away in protective chests, each piece carrying a memory or some type of sentimental importance. I’ve told you before about my lucky bullet, which is the most sentimentally important treasure I own and the reason I wear it every day (regardless if it matches my outfit or not).

I notice many people wearing their sentimental pieces on a regular basis. It's usually the small trinkets that don’t necessarily match and are dainty. These understated pieces we carry are usually tied to some significant event or person or because we wear them so much we feel they are witnesses to major parts of our lives. (more…)

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How To Not Look like a Tourist in the Rain

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Rain, rain go away come again while I’m on vacation in the Bahamas. Rain sucks. Unless you’re trying to sleep or overindulge in carbs (guilty!), then it’s the perfect motivation. The sidewalks in the city become filled with slow-walking, umbrella-carrying, rain-boot-wearing, frizzy-hair-having pedestrians that all have the same grimace as the horizontal rain sprinkles onto their faces, making their umbrellas mostly useless.

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I was near the Meatpacking District meeting some friends for a lazy Sunday carb-loading Italian dinner (check out the tiramisu above) while checking out everyone’s drizzle style and taking creeper shots. The rain stayed at a consistent drizzle/fuzzy sprinkle all day so people were dressed across the board. I caught some overly prepared tourists walking around in their candy colored PVC ponchos who looked like they were ready for a monsoon, and locals who were mostly dressed in light hooded jackets, hats or completely unprepared as if it was just another sunny day. I met a group of friends all with their individual styles to combat the elements.

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Always Travel in Style

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Flowers

I took a trip back to the South for Mother’s Day weekend to surprise my mom. She’s impossible to shop for, so being the narcissist I am, I thought I was the best present to show up on her doorstep. No one knew I was visiting, so when I showed up with a bouquet of flowers (above) and walked through the front door at dinnertime everyone was thrilled. I was relieved that she was so happy to see me because I figured I would either be welcomed with excitement or scolded for being so good at lying for a month about the planned trip and sneaking down the East Coast. (more…)

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